So think of your words…
| Did he ‘take you to the bed’? | or | Did he ‘drag you to the bed’? |
| Did you ‘end up on the ground’ | or | Did he ‘throw you down on the ground’? |
| Did he ‘have sex on you’ | or | Did he ‘rape you’? |
| Did he ‘open your legs’ | or | Did he ‘prise open your legs’? |
| Did he ‘make you have oral sex with him’ |
or | Did he ‘force you to suck on his penis’? Did he ‘ram his penis in your mouth’? |
I have drawn a table below so you can find and choose which words fit your experience the best. This will help you to tell it exactly as it was.
I hope that understanding your own resistance to rape and finding the right words to fit as closely as possible to what you went through will be helpful and strengthening.
Rape is NOT mutual, it is NOT something people do together, it is NOT a joint act – IT IS the act of one person against another.
Violent to NOT Violent with
Imposition NOT Participation
Coercion NOT Cooperation